it gets better, i promise

This world can and will break your heart. I know it has mine. You spiral down in this hole that you think you may never come up out of. You feel your world crashing down on you. You feel like there’s too much to do, so you do nothing.

I know this feeling and I was there not so long ago. We had made plans. I had my life mapped out. I knew where I was going. I loved it. I felt in control…and then I didn’t. I camped out on my couch for my entire Christmas break, and I regret all that time I wasted. I want to help you from making that same mistake I did. I want to help you get over your heartbreak more quickly.

First of all, take a minute and think about all that you have been given and be grateful. Receive the love and friendship that is begging to be given to you. Is anyone trying to help you? Are you pushing them away? Are you making excuses? Playing the victim?

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says: Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 

Yes, sometimes bad things happen to good people. We get our feelings hurt. We suffer losses, but it is all a part of a bigger plan. Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t see the forest for the trees?” Well, this is kinda that. And I want you to know that I am not discounting your pain and hurting at all. I truly believe that you are feeling so much right now that it seems unbearable, but I want you to know that there is more. So much more coming.

I consider our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. = The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to joy that’s coming. (loosely translated) {Romans 8:18}

Those plans that you had, they will be different now. Who knows? They may even be better. You will look back at this season and realize why it had to happen. You will want to express so much gratitude and praise for this hurt redirecting you to a better path.

Let that give you peace and healing on your journey. Please, reach out to someone if you are in this pit right now. I would love to chat with you if you feel like you have no friends to speak with.

find joy in the waiting

Life is hard, y’all. Some days I have no desire to do anything productive because it feels like I’m always striving. Always trying and searching for more. When is it ever enough? When is my ship gonna come in?

It can feel like you are being overlooked, forgotten, when things aren’t happening as quickly as you want them to be. How do you get past this feeling? You take control of what you can and trust God to handle the rest. Find joy in the present. Don’t wait to live your life…

  1. Do some good – volunteer for a soup kitchen, coach Girls on the Run in your area, help the elderly with their daily tasks, do something nice for a friend or family member, etc. Find something that you enjoy and help others with that gift you have.
  2. Praise and worship – instead of constantly praying for what you want, try spending some time in gratitude for what you do have.
  3. Read a book – I know. What could reading a book do?? Well, it could distract you OR if you read a personal development book, or memoir, it could give you hope and action steps that you can take to get the results that you want. Have you had your heart broken? Read “Rising Strong” by Brené Brown. It helped me get over mine, as well as seeing a well-timed Instagram post by Christine Caine quoting Psalm 34:18 –

    The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

  4. Get a hobby – What is something you like to do? Take photos? Get yourself a good camera and go exploring. Do you like crafting? Check out Pinterest for some inspo and head to Hobby Lobby or Michael’s for supplies and you’re set for the duration of that project.
  5. TRAVEL – Get out of town. See some new sights. Take in a new city or a new landscape or both! There is nothing like experiencing a new culture, even if it’s just an hour away. Take a trip. Do something by yourself.

Most of all, I want you to know that you’re not alone. There are others out there going through exactly the same thing as you. And, God has not forgotten you. His timing is perfect.

What helps you get through the waiting?