how to keep your resolutions this year

It’s that time of year again when we are feeling refreshed and postivley looking at our futures with wide-eyes, hoping for the best. It’s within reach more than at other times of the year when we feel beat down. We are optimistic. I want you to continue that feeling, so here’s a list of 5 steps to keep your resolutions this year.

  1. Write it down. There’s power in putting pen to paper. Get it out of your head and on paper. Make it a reality. Set your intention.
  2. Share with your friends and family. This provides accountability. Ask them to check in with you on your progress. Be prepared to answer them. Dont’ get upset if they do bring it up. You asked them to!
  3. Reverse engineer your goal. Back the truck up. Beep beep beep beep beep. Ask yourself HOW do I get there? What is it going to take to get there? Find your number and divide it down into increments by months, weeks, and even days! Figure out your exact plan. Break it down. (bowow bow bow bowow)
  4. Make daily decisions. This has to be a lifestyle change. Make it your new way of living. Dont think of it as a chore but instead visualize how you will feel when you get there. It will be hard at first, but I promise it will seem like second nature eventually.
  5. Celebrate you wins along the way. Relish in those small victories. Enjoy them. You earned it!

Most of all, take action…now. Don’t wait until tomorrow, next week, in the spring to start. Start now and you are one step closer to living your dream life.

Advertisements

it gets better, i promise

This world can and will break your heart. I know it has mine. You spiral down in this hole that you think you may never come up out of. You feel your world crashing down on you. You feel like there’s too much to do, so you do nothing.

I know this feeling and I was there not so long ago. We had made plans. I had my life mapped out. I knew where I was going. I loved it. I felt in control…and then I didn’t. I camped out on my couch for my entire Christmas break, and I regret all that time I wasted. I want to help you from making that same mistake I did. I want to help you get over your heartbreak more quickly.

First of all, take a minute and think about all that you have been given and be grateful. Receive the love and friendship that is begging to be given to you. Is anyone trying to help you? Are you pushing them away? Are you making excuses? Playing the victim?

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 says: Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. 

Yes, sometimes bad things happen to good people. We get our feelings hurt. We suffer losses, but it is all a part of a bigger plan. Have you ever heard the saying “You can’t see the forest for the trees?” Well, this is kinda that. And I want you to know that I am not discounting your pain and hurting at all. I truly believe that you are feeling so much right now that it seems unbearable, but I want you to know that there is more. So much more coming.

I consider our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us. = The pain that you’ve been feeling can’t compare to joy that’s coming. (loosely translated) {Romans 8:18}

Those plans that you had, they will be different now. Who knows? They may even be better. You will look back at this season and realize why it had to happen. You will want to express so much gratitude and praise for this hurt redirecting you to a better path.

Let that give you peace and healing on your journey. Please, reach out to someone if you are in this pit right now. I would love to chat with you if you feel like you have no friends to speak with.

find joy in the waiting

Life is hard, y’all. Some days I have no desire to do anything productive because it feels like I’m always striving. Always trying and searching for more. When is it ever enough? When is my ship gonna come in?

It can feel like you are being overlooked, forgotten, when things aren’t happening as quickly as you want them to be. How do you get past this feeling? You take control of what you can and trust God to handle the rest. Find joy in the present. Don’t wait to live your life…

  1. Do some good – volunteer for a soup kitchen, coach Girls on the Run in your area, help the elderly with their daily tasks, do something nice for a friend or family member, etc. Find something that you enjoy and help others with that gift you have.
  2. Praise and worship – instead of constantly praying for what you want, try spending some time in gratitude for what you do have.
  3. Read a book – I know. What could reading a book do?? Well, it could distract you OR if you read a personal development book, or memoir, it could give you hope and action steps that you can take to get the results that you want. Have you had your heart broken? Read “Rising Strong” by Brené Brown. It helped me get over mine, as well as seeing a well-timed Instagram post by Christine Caine quoting Psalm 34:18 –

    The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

  4. Get a hobby – What is something you like to do? Take photos? Get yourself a good camera and go exploring. Do you like crafting? Check out Pinterest for some inspo and head to Hobby Lobby or Michael’s for supplies and you’re set for the duration of that project.
  5. TRAVEL – Get out of town. See some new sights. Take in a new city or a new landscape or both! There is nothing like experiencing a new culture, even if it’s just an hour away. Take a trip. Do something by yourself.

Most of all, I want you to know that you’re not alone. There are others out there going through exactly the same thing as you. And, God has not forgotten you. His timing is perfect.

What helps you get through the waiting?

there is nothing accidental about you

Woah! It’s been a while, right? Well, I’m back and I have decided that I am writing a book, soooo I should be practicing my writing, right?

I have just started reading Without Rival by Lisa Bevere. I happened to pick this book up by “accident”. My friend and I were at Lifeway and I got this feeling. I told her, “There’s a book I’ve been wanting to read but I don’t know what it’s called, or even what the cover looks like.” Big help, right? ha! We did some browsing but none of them felt “right”. I picked up Present over Perfect, but I knew that wasn’t what I was looking for. We eventually left. I forgot about it.

Then, we went to Hobby Lobby (not looking for books, I swear.) As we were headed to the checkout line, I saw the books. I asked her if we could look really fast. I still had that “feeling.” Then, I saw this title and this cover and I knew it was what I was looking for. Now, subconsciously, I know that I have seen this book on Instagram or somewhere and I had stored it away for a time when I needed it. The time was now.

When you are in business for yourself, there is always going to be time to compare, to feel less than everyone else doing just what you are doing. I had just recently experienced this when an online friend chose another health and fitness coach over of me. It cut so deep. I wondered why and I pondered for a full day what made her “better than me” In other words, that whole “why am I never good enough?” voice came raring its ugly head. ugh. That is NEVER a good look…on anyone. I, thank goodness, have been doing so much personal development and self-care that I didn’t let this keep me down too long. I know that this happens, but that doesn’t mean that my tender heart has been hardened.

As I began reading Without Rival, I came across the line,

Marvelously loved one, there is absolutely nothing accidental about you.

Ahh! Can you just feel that exhale. No one else is you. No one else can ever compare to you because you are you. You are youer than you, as Dr. Seuss says. God has made us each unique. We have been set apart so that we have no “rival”. We shouldn’t be competing with anyone, whether it be for friends, boyfriends, jobs, contests, clients, etc. Our only competition should be ourselves, to be better than the person we were yesterday.

It’s not lost on me that the last time I sat down and wrote a blog, it was about comparison. Obviously, this is a struggle. One that I believe many women, and, likely, some men, deal with all throughout life. But, the truth is that it’s a no-win situation. We cannot be winners when we are looking at our competition rather than looking up to our Creator for what He wants from us. So today, join me in locking arms and taking in all that we are, as individuals, and what we can do as unique beings during our time on Earth.

Have you ever had a rival? How did it feel? How do you believe that you are unique and without rival?

it’s that time again

INSPIRATION

The dreaded V-Day.  It is upon us, my friends.  Unless you have been living under a rock, you have seen all of the pink and red taking over your friendly grocery stores.

I cannot remember ever being happy seeing this month roll around.  It was a reminder that I am single (in case I had forgotten).  Even when I had a boyfriend it was the worst.  He could never live up to the hype (not that he tried or anything.)

But God, He is better than that.

This is the first year that I am not dreading this “holiday”, because, finally, I am relentlessly in love with Him.  I am so captivated by Jesus and all that He is and all that He sees in me.  He will never let me down.  He sees me at my worst, and He loves me just the same.  I cannot tell you how happy I am to be able to grasp that.

Have you ever seen or heard that saying, “Be so in love with God, a man has to seek Him to get to your heart”?  I’m paraphrasing here because I can’t find the exact quote.  I feel like I finally get that.  I am at a point where Jesus is the center of my life and any man that wants to get to me will have to go through Him.  I’m not interested in roses or candy that comes in a red heart.  I’m interested in the love that is everlasting and unconditional.  That kind of love doesn’t require gifts.  It is a gift.  It never wilts and dies.  It doesn’t get digested in my belly.  It just is and always will be.

identity

Yesterday, I came to the conclusion that I have always had something to find my identity in, but I think that is true of most people.

When I was a young girl in school, I was smart.

When I got into high school and college I was a cheerleader. I told everyone that.

My last semester in college I started dating this guy so I was his girlfriend for 4 1/2 years.

After we broke up, I started running. Then, I was a runner. I found myself telling people so and it was a fact most people knew about me for my adult life.

Then, the unexpected happened. I was injured training for a marathon and never really healed. I didn’t know who I was. I couldn’t hang out with those friends anymore because they were doing something that I could no longer do -> run.

I struggled in trying to find my place in this world. I suddenly didn’t know where I belonged anymore.

I had been back in church for a year or two at this point so I was slowly but surely starting to recognize the gospel. So in the past 2-3 years I have found my true identity.

And, that brings me to yesterday I was sitting in church listening to the message when I had to write my ideas down.

I don’t ever have to wonder who I am or where I belong anymore, because I know that I am His and He is mine.

identity

That is where my identity lies from now till forever, in the love of Christ. I don’t ever have to wander this world alone again. I am saved by grace through faith.

For by grace you have been saved through faith.  And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God.  {Ephesians 2:8}

What about you?  Where do you find your identity?

Core of Christmas

If you follow me on Instagram, you have more than likely noticed my latest posts.  In December, I decided to start the #CoreOfChristmas challenge.  I absolutely love everything about Christmas, from the music to the lights on the tree to the excuses to get together with more people I love.  With so many people running around trying to “get things done” and buy gifts, I really wanted to just focus on Jesus for this season.  After all,  that’s what it’s all about, so in comes the “core” of Christmas.

I decided to combine my love for Jesus with my love of fitness.  We will be doing a different core exercise every day and meditating on a verse to keep us in the present.

coc

I have teamed up with my lifelong friend, Courtney, as well as friends I met through faith and fitness in social media, Tiffany and Bobbi.  I’m hoping you will join us!  Did I mention there are PRIZES??  Oh, yes, we will be drawing names on the 12th and 24th of December.

Here is a look at the past few days!

Day 1: elbow plank & Proverbs 31:17

plank plank2

Day 2: bicycle crunches & Psalm 139:14

bicycle

Day 3: superman & John 16:33

superman

Day 4….check us out on Instagram!  Can’t wait to see you join in on the Community we are forming.